Tis’ the Season…to focus on yourself
By Chianne Greene
The holidays can be a joyous occasion but let’s face it, the holiday season can also bring feelings of sadness and loneliness. You may begin to reflect on your current situation and this past year, the highs and lows as well as the heartbreaks and accomplishments. The holidays can bring a mix of emotions that could impact your mental health and you may not know how or have the resources to manage them all. Is it possible you fall into one of these categories?
In a relationship? The holiday season has a way of bringing couples together, to the pictures you take for the holiday cards or the social media posts. It’s also the time of year when each of you gets the opportunity to meet each other’s family. Although this experience can be nerve wracking it is important to remember it’s a joyous occasion. This is the opportunity to blend families and come together as one, so smile and put your best foot forward. Additionally, there are plenty of things to explore in the city as a couple. You and your partner can visit Rockefeller Center to see the tree or go ice-skating and visit the holiday shops. There are endless opportunities so don’t let the cold weather stop you from getting out there and having fun!
Single? Being single during the holidays can make you feel lonely, sad, and you may even begin to pity yourself. But there is no reason as to why that should be your focus. Focus instead on your social circle. If you continue to focus on what you lack it will only increase your feelings of sadness. Focusing on your inner circle can make you feel better and it can offer a different perspective on the holidays. Try hosting a Friendsgiving. What’s a Friendsgiving? It’s when a group of friends each bring a dish, or all cook at the host’s house to share a meal together. These friends are usually part of your inner circle, the friends you can count on and share your secrets with. Friendsgiving is a time for bonding and creating new memories. You can go around the table or room and share what you’re thankful for. Additionally, you and your friends can participate in a gift exchange like ‘white elephant.’ If you haven’t heard of the game, it’s simple. You write down everyone’s names on separate pieces of paper and put all of the names in a hat or box and each person will go around of the room and pick a name out of the hat. Whoever’s name you choose is the person you buy a gift for. At a later date everyone would come back together and exchange their gifts.
Haven’t accomplished your 2019 goals? Is the holiday season making you reflect on the past year? Did you suddenly realize you haven’t completed or started your 2019 goals? Don’t freak out, you still have time to accomplish your goals. Since 2019 will come to an end soon it’s important to mend your 2019 to fit the new timeline you now have. Do not be discouraged by your new timeline, think of it as a new source of motivation and a boost of energy. Prioritize your goals and determine which is important to you. As the year is beginning to come to an end you can think of what ways your approach to your goals has worked and how it has not. Perhaps you need more structure, or you underestimated how much time it would take to accomplish each task.
When the holiday season begins, instead of focusing on the things you lack or the goals you have not completed yet, it’s important to remember all of what you have and what you’ve accomplished. It’s also important to be aware of the emotions that are present around this time of year compared to the rest of the year and develop a healthy way to manage those emotions. What better way to take care of yourself than booking an appointment with one of our skilled therapists?